Debunking Modern Feminism, Part 1
Note: What follows does not apply to all feminists, but only to modern feminist mobs that you’re likely to encounter on sites like Jezebel, Blame the Patriarchy, and others. Further, all women owe much to the efforts of early feminists who helped open doors and give Western women the freedoms that we enjoy today.
I get asked this a lot, so I’ll answer, briefly for now, and later, in greater detail, with statistics and links. Why is opposing modern feminism important to me? Well, for many reasons. First, I’ve experienced feminist bullying first hand, and it was horrifying. I have never encountered a less compassionate group of people in my life. What was my crime? I stated that it was wrong for feminists to publicly attack two young women who were brave enough to say that being asked to coffee in an elevator is no big deal (it isn’t). This was years ago, and things have only gotten worse since. Every man who voices an objection to anything feminists say is labeled a misogynist and accused of mansplaining. These accusations have been lobbed at some of the most kind and honorable people I know.
Feminists are blurring the definition of rape to where “eye rape” is now actually a thing. Seriously. Eye rape. This does a huge disservice to rape survivors, both male and female, who have already suffered enough. The last thing they need is to have their traumatic experiences compared to “eye rape” or drunk sex.
I hate that feminists smear “Nice Guys” and accuse them of having ulterior motives. Some may; some may not, but how is a guy supposed to show a woman that he likes her? And what’s the problem with being sexually attracted to a woman that you’re friends with? This could lead to a great relationship, or it could lead to nothing at all, but there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with it.
Feminists despise free speech and use every weapon in their arsenal to silence both allies and opponents. Being that afraid of criticism is a clear sign that your ideas don’t and won’t stand up to scrutiny.
I hate terms like “rape culture,” “patriarchy,” “mansplaining,” “dudebro,” “privilege,” “male gaze,” “objectification,” “sexualization,” “creep,” and “misogyny.” They are generally used to describe both everything and nothing in particular. The purpose of these terms is emotional manipulation, and many good men fall for it like dominoes in a row.
Feminists are consistently anti-science. They prefer personal anecdote over evidence, but only if that anecdote fits their ideology.
I hate that feminists completely ignore the rights of men, and only give occasional lip service to the rights of people of color, people with disabilities, members of the LGBTQ community, immigrants, and others in need of help.
Many feminists make their feminism a career. And I don’t respect people whose career is to make others miserable.
I hate that feminists use statistics to perpetuate lies. I hate their constant hypocrisy.
I hate that feminism teaches women to be victims and whiners, rather than taking responsibility for their own actions and decisions. Women are not as pathetic and weak as feminists would have us believe.
Further, feminists can’t seem to make up their mind as to whether women and men are the same or different. News flash: We’re a sexually dimorphic species with significant physical differences. And that doesn’t just mean that some men are better at weight-lifting:http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/how-male-female-brains-differ. At this point, I think it is fair to say that on average, women are better at some things, while men are at others. But this doesn’t define where any individual falls on the spectrum of ability, and discrimination on the basis of sex is both illegal and unacceptable.
Some feminists are trans-phobic, because the logical conclusion of viewing gender as a harmful social construct is to do away with it completely, making transgender persons even more marginalized and stigmatized than they already are. On the other hand, other feminists believe that lesbians must have sex with transgender women, even if those women have fully male bodies. According to them, to do less would be discrimination.
Finally, feminist theory is a mess. It’s based on loose facts and snippets taken from postmodernism. Rationalism is what drew me to skepticism, and feminism is the exact opposite of that.
In sum, feminists have managed to prove every negative stereotype about women imaginable — they’re illogical, irrational, histrionic, dishonest, manipulative, emotional, and use men to achieve their goals, whatever those goals may be. Because that part isn’t entirely clear, not even to them.
I know there are many feminists who are good people and who do good work. I realize that women are suffering in many countries in ways that we don’t even dare to imagine. Further, I don’t believe that women have achieved full equality here, especially in terms of reproductive rights, which are constantly under attack by conservatives. However, online feminists aren’t dealing with these issues. They’re too busy reading negative comments about their selfish rants and publishing those comments as proof positive of the need for feminism. It’s a sad state of affairs indeed.